How well have you known someone? I believe it depends upon the person in context, so I’ll base that around the person you come to know, in whole. Since I’m evidently a straight kind of guy, I’ll define it in a feminine context. She could be your best friend, a stranger that surpassed the general norms of being strange, your girlfriend, your wife, maybe your mother, or an aunt you click with, or even a person you hardly see but could feel them close all the time.
It doesn’t matter who that person for you is, as long as you have a connection that surpasses everything else you’ve ever felt.
So, how much could you define about that person? I’m sure when you start talking about them, you don’t refer to their favorite color, or the kind of movies they like. Even the kind of food they prefer, maybe even that’s not the topic you would choose. For me, I’ll talk about her irritatingly cute habits, like the way she would always wipe the plate with a tissue before eating, or how she doesn’t know how to throw something outside of a dustbin. I could talk on and on how she could smile at almost anything that you find funny, or how your rants are never actually a worthless shit for her. It means something, always, even when you find yourself full of shit. And that’s something that defines how vital she is.
I mean, when you close your eyes, not only do you see her smile, but also those weird poses she makes, or how she takes care of you, or even taunts you. It’s different for everyone, and everyone has a different story to tell. Often you realize that every story has a different context., but that spark in people’s eyes, in the moment they are explaining about them, that’s priceless, and justifying. It shows that they are the ones that actually matter.
This person, does it matter how long you’ve known them? I believe it doesn’t, at least not in most cases. It could span over a life-time to even a couple of hours, and even then, the kind of connection you feel could very well be the same. Often all it takes is some deep grown conversations and memories that join two distant worlds, colliding them into a space that’s new found and enticing, and surprising. Before that, you never knew a connection could be so forthcoming.
And so, taking such a person into context, how well do you know them? In your faith, maybe completely. But who are we kidding, we never get to know the entirety of even ourselves, let alone someone else. We do however wish to know them entirely. And in that desire, we fall short of moments of being surprised than getting intrigued.
Like until she cut her nails that one time in front of you, you had no idea that she had some strangely interesting shaped nails. And by strange, I mean something that just made you fall even more in how much you still had to know. Or how that one time when you kind of thought that you guys had lost the purse in an auto, she managed to use her wits when it was needed, and succeeded to recover it. How could you ever know a side to a person until they are pushed to bring that side out!
I guess we can’t. And likewise, if we wish to realize someone’s bad side, do we really need to push them to break free of their bounds and show an extended side to them! Three’s a million different contexts that could be put in million little segments, but even still there would be something that’s not yet attained. And that’s the life we live, pursuing to be intrigued the entire span such that living, it never gets boring. And so that not everything becomes about survival. Somethings are also to take the most out of life!
So, to what extent have we known that person? I guess just enough to wanting to know more. I guess right enough to never expect any less to go. I guess, in the context of faith, wholly.